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Toxic People Pleasing

Toxic People Pleasing

Tips for recognizing when people-pleasing is harming you and what to do about it.

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Caitlin Cantor, LCSW, CST, CGT
May 08, 2025
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POST SUMMARY

People pleasing isn’t always a bad thing. In a healthy relationship, it feels good to please our partners. When we go out of our way for them and it makes them happy, it also makes us happy. It becomes unhealthy when no matter what you do, they’re never pleased, or if you measure your worth based on pleasing others, or if you consistently abandon yourself for someone else. This post will show you how to be a healthier people pleaser. You’ll learn:

  • How to recognize when your desire to people please is unhealthy for you

  • What to do instead

  • How to elevate your self-esteem without needing approval from others

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