Dear Caitlin №14 — I Regret Bringing Up Sex So Soon. What Now?
What to do if you're looking for a serious relationship but conversations with someone new are all about sex.
POST SUMMARY
A 50-year-old woman wants to meet the guy she’s been messaging with on a dating app, but she’s worried he has the wrong impression of her because they talk about sex a lot.
Boundaries can be set at any time, regardless of what was said before.
Pros and cons of talking about sex early on.
The way someone behaves is a reflection of who they are, not you or your worth.
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THE POST:
Dear Caitlin,
I’m over 50 and met a man who is also over 50. There is a very strong attraction. We started talking via chat about sex about a week and a half ago. We have not made arrangements to meet, but we find our conversation about sex is more interesting than, What are you doing and How is your day. He gives compliments and so do I. Because we met on a dating app I know there are others he maybe talking to, but everytime I have a conversation I wanna hold his attention and leave him wanting more later. In my opinion that keeps him attracted. However, I wanna be DREAM GIRL status and not THOT status cause we started off talking about sex. Please help. 🙏🏾
R.K.
Dear R.K.,