A 3 Step Method for Healing from Painful and Limiting Beliefs
Take loving action to move forward on your healing journey with these three steps.
In this blog, you’ll learn:
A Gestalt Therapy method for changing limiting beliefs.
You’ll learn how you came to have your current beliefs about yourself and how to stop believing things that keep you stuck
About Stephen King’s limiting beliefs
About my limiting belief and how I overcame it using the three-step method I’m teaching you
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This morning I was listening to, On Writing, by Stephen King, a book about his journey as a writer. When he was a kid, his teacher found a sci-fi story he wrote and asked him why he’d “write junk like this in the first place” when he was so talented. Why would he waste his abilities like that? King goes on to write,
“I had no answer to give. I was ashamed. I have spent a good many years since–too many, I think–being ashamed about what I write. I think I was forty before I realized that almost every writer of fiction and poetry who has ever published a line has been accused by someone of wasting his or her God-given talent. If you write (or paint or dance or sculpt or sing, I suppose), someone will try to make you feel lousy about it, that’s all.”
Despite all his success, King worried his writing was junk well into his 40s because someone told him it was junk, and he believed them. This is a great example of how the messages we get as children become what we believe about ourselves. These beliefs stick with us until we actively work on releasing them.
Additionally, King says that to this day he won’t share anything he writes with his family because his parents told him his writing was a waste of time, he’d be poor his whole life, and what he wrote was “weird”. He wrote his first story in second grade, but no one encouraged him until he got to high school.
Like King, as children, you got messages about who you are, what you are, what you should do, what you shouldn’t do, what makes you worthy, unworthy, good, bad, etc. Those messages got internalized and became the beliefs you have today. In Gestalt therapy, we refer to those beliefs as “introjects.”