5 Dating Strategies to Help You Avoid Emotional Exhaustion
Date in ways that support your mental health and make it more likely for you to meet the right person.
If you’ve been dating for a while, you’re probably tired of dating apps. The rollercoaster of going from excited and hopeful to disappointed and hopeless wears on you quickly.
We were told dating sites would help us meet the right person faster. However, it seems like dating sites are designed to keep people on them rather than help them get off them. From a business perspective, this would make sense, but it’s not something I can prove. All I know for sure is that dating sites will drag you through the mud and destroy your self-esteem if you use them without a strategy. The worse you feel about yourself, the harder it is to date and meet the right person. That’s why it’s imperative that you date with boundaries, a strategy, and intention.
I spent years on and off dating sites, so I know how they are from personal and professional experience. It took me years (and a lot of trial and error) to learn how to make dating apps work for me instead of against me. I eventually met my husband online, so I’m proof good things can come from them. However, by the time I met my husband, I’d been through hell and back. I’d learned how to date with self-esteem, relational skills, and self-care after years of emotional exhaustion. My strategies worked, but they were born out of a need to stop suffering. Had I known how to date in a healthier way earlier on, I wouldn’t have had such a painful journey. That’s one reason I am so passionate about sharing my dating knowledge: I don’t want anyone else to suffer for as long as I did. It’s not necessary if you learn to date more skillfully.
If you want to meet a right-fit person but you don’t want dating apps to suck the life out of you, you need to be strategic in your dating approach. The following is a list of things I did while I was dating to foster self-love and feel empowered and happy while looking to meet the right person: